Don’t Complain, Don’t Explain Nothing

The British Royalty, I’ve heard, have a saying “Don’t complain and don’t explain.” It stems from the Crown having its own rules around behavior in public. The Crown doesn’t complain. It is—or at least has to appear as—above the human pettiness of complaining about being a frickin’ Queen or a King or a Prince or Princess. It has to appear as if it is not a burden. It cannot allow anyone to deflate the power and magnificence of the Crown. It is an old way of maintaining sovereignty.
“Don’t explain,” is a radical act of non-codependency in which the Crown is not trying to get anybody’s buy-in or approval or even understanding by explaining anything. It acts as royal sovereign, period. While there is certainly much psychological damage passed down the royal lineage, and this saying has an unhealthy component to it no question… I think “don’t complain and don’t explain” also offers some insight into personal sovereignty.
Sitting relaxed in the center of Emptiness—that is, Doing Nothing, is the maximum expression of sovereignty. There is actually nothing to complain about in that state. It is not gritting ones teeth under the repressive etiquette to not complain about things that frankly normally ought to be addressed (and even then, a more neutral, “address,” rather than “complain” is likely better). Complaining about things misses their true nature of not being as they appear to be. It misses the gratitude, the unconditional love, the absolute trust, the powerful sovereignty. It misses the amazing support you are receiving from sixty million directions (or subjects). It looks outward at things as more powerful than you. This isn’t how it is in fact. Everything is empty, including you. Everything is impermanent; whatever it is will pass. Everything has a point of reference, you, which you can change.
There is likewise nothing to explain. Emptiness is unexplainable. To attempt to explain misses the point. Words to do not capture the true essence of emptiness, or even of the sovereignty of resting in emptiness. You cannot explain why you must stand in your power, you just do; otherwise you are not in your power. Do Nothing is the absolute power—action comes naturally, automatically, spontaneously, without doing, from a total understanding and embodying of the nature of reality, vast compassion, unconditional love, and infallible skill. It is not trying to get more power or maintain power, as it cannot be gained or lost, and therefore the action and mindset is completely trustworthy.

That is the absolute sovereignty—be fully yourself. And remember you are Nothing, in the best way possible, because so is everyone and everything else. That’s how we all interrelate and support and give, because transformation, change, evolution is only possible if there is no fixed unchanging “you.” You are Empty of fixed independent nature. And so with everyone. It’s that sameness of Emptiness (One Taste) that allows for us to empower our sovereignty: our uniqueness, our gifts.